This Holiday, Do What YOU Want

"Winter Dream" by Alice Popkorn on Flickr

It's the time of year when families celebrate together. There are lots of parties and get-togethers and sometimes it's hard to relax and just enjoy the season. It's supposed to be the most wonderful time. But it can also be the most stressful time for a lot of people, especially those who are struggling with infertility.

For some reason I use Christmas as a TTC target. "Maybe by next Christmas I'll have a baby to celebrate with." The years have come and gone, this is Christmas #4 and still, no little ones in my house. Besides the dogs. So I have that in the back of my mind during the holidays, and it makes me feel sad.

This year I just wasn't in the spirit and we decided to skip out on a lot of the traditional Christmas celebrations. We didn't put up our tree. We didn't send out Christmas cards or buy each other gifts. We just weren't in the mood. Okay, okay, we're Grinches this year. But who cares?

It's okay because we don't always have to do what is expected of us. First and foremost, we should do what makes us feel joyful or content. There is no obligation to spend the holidays being miserable. I'm not miserable this year. In fact, it's been one of the most stress-free holidays I've had in a long time. Because we removed so much of the stress from our lives and we are able to just enjoy being with each other. And I'm very happy with that decision.

So I hope as the long holiday weekend approaches, that you remember to schedule some time to do what makes YOU happy. And if you don't feel up to attending a certain party or family gathering, then don't. If you need a break, then take it. After all, your happiness is what matters most.

Are you skipping out on any holiday festivities this year?